Are you saying that a wolf dream is not skinchanging? Since when? Arya dreams of Nymeria both while playing the part of Cat of the Canals and in the House of B&W while she's blind, before she actively skinchanges the cat.
No. I am not. Wolf dreams are unconscious connections via the third eye, but when Jon is awake he doesn't know how to open his third eye yet. How can he reach out to Ghost if he doesn't know how to do it?
Well! I'd like to break out this quote from Jojen in Clash of Kings
“The wolf dreams are no true dreams. You have your eye closed tight whenever you’re awake, but as you drift off it flutters open and your soul seeks out its other half.
The wolf dreams aren't really dreams. They are real experiences. Jon has these same experiences bleeding through while awake. His eye is 'fluttering open' while awake. It's not a conciousness effort, no, but it's real.
We kiss on the mouth but still cough down our sleeves
I agree that Jon's third eye flutters open while asleep, but I don't recall accounts of the fluttering while awake.
There are a couple of times we see this happening. The one that stands out to most folk is when Jon and Ghost are reunited. Jon slowly starts to get restless, and he feels hunger when he's not hungry. Then Ghost appears and he realises he was sharing feeling with the direwolf.
Basically, what this passage is confirming, is there is always a subconscious connection between them. One not fully realised by Jon.
Plus there is the beating up of Iron Emmet. Jon loses consciousness but continues to pummel Emmet. Ghost is, at this point, with Jon again. Their connection is stronger after their reunion. But Jon still doesn't have the ability to connect at will, like Bran and Arya do.